Weekly Sabbath Survey
Who Are You? — 6-29-13
It helps me to understand humanity by using categories that can be found in Scripture, our own culture’s proverbial sayings and so forth. One that comes to mind is “There are three kinds of people born on Earth. Some are born leaders, some are born followers, and some are just born.” Wow. Heavy, huh?
Here are another three categories that characterize people. Maybe you can see who you are in this, and if you need to, make changes.. These designations are valid pigeon holes to put ourselves into:
1. The Victim. This is the person who views himself/herself as someone that family, friends, or fate have messed with and wounded. They are hurt. Angry. They cling to the injustices done, and are constantly ‘licking their wounds’ reminding themselves of how badly they have been abused. They may become loners because their friends abandon them for others with a more cheerful disposition and something else to talk about other than their evil ex-husband, ungrateful children, or unhealed diseases.
2. The Survivor. This person was a Victim, but has moved past that hurting stage. They are healing, but they still identify with the various crimes, ill treatment and/or medical problems they have endured. They are more out going than the Victim, choosing to allow themselves a measure of happiness in spite of the bad things. They may still be unforgiving, but have begun to relinquish the anger.
3. The Overcomer. This person has figured out they are nobody’s VICTIM. They refuse the victim mentality. They tell themselves and others they learned more from the (bad thing) than they would if the circumstances had been more pleasant. They refuse the ‘survivor’ label which refers back to what happened rather than going forward. This is a level hard to attain if you are not a Believer in Jesus.
When Overcomer status is achieved, the bitterness, the anger go away. It is easier to forgive quickly when a new hurt happens. Our heart is not comfortable with the poison of resentment and rage. We will go to the Lord to get that thorn out so we can move on with the goodness to be found in life. Moving far past the injustices done to us, requires FORGIVENESS. Unforgiveness keeps us stuck, moving back and forth between Survivor and Victim. Any new insult done will make the bitterness flare up. Every time we go into Victim mode, it sets us back and we have to do the steps again. It gets easier all the time.
I was very stuck in unforgiveness a one point in my life. I was in Victim mode when I realized that the hurts done were calculated, done on purpose, a mind game with no rules. I was highly incensed and outraged. If there had been a uniform for victims I would have gotten one. It took a couple of years and a lot of help from my Christians friends to get over the homicidal feelings I had for this ONE person. The Lord began to reveal the whole victim role as a place where the devil wants to hold us all captive. I stepped into the Survivor level, and began to ask God to help me forgive. One day I sitting in meditation with my Bible. My thoughts turned to the person who, unbeknownst to anyone by this time, lurked around in the corners of my mind. The Lord spoke to me that as I had escaped the life of constant Victim, He wanted me to move on to being a Survivor. He said, From now on, I want you to be an Overcomer. My life began to change drastically after that session with the best psychiatric help money could never buy! I got so tough, it takes a lot to make me cry over what happens to me, and even harder to get me depressed about it. Now, when I feel a little put upon, I remind myself how far I’ve come, and move right past the first level. I evaluate over a day or so in the Survivor mentality. Then, I move back to Overcomer. I know I am there when the PEACE comes back.
There are entire ethnic entities that major on the Victim mentality. Some ‘minorities’ cling to injustices done to their ancestors two-three hundred or even several thousand years ago. They remain victims of whatever it was that attacked or abused before they were born! Most of my Chickasaw people gave up the whole Trail of Tears victim thing, plunged themselves into the white man’s world. They prospered. They became cattle ranchers, businessmen, builders, military heroes, authors, entertainment and sports figures, even one astronaut. The rest of the world’s minorities should stop whining and do the same.
For me, instead of singing the ‘Somebody Done Me Wrong’ song, my testimony is one of victories over my own weaknesses, and the wickedness of my own heart. If you are free in Jesus, you are free indeed.
They overcame [the devil] by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they loved not their lives unto the death. Revelation 12:11
Charlene Reams Manning
Believer in the Lord Jesus Messiah
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